California parents who are splitting up should make sure that their children have consistent household rules as they move between homes. Parents may have separate rules either because of genuinely different ideas about raising children or because they want to spite their ex-spouses. No matter the reason, the differences can be damaging for children. It is important that parents try to sit down for an in-person meeting about household rules. Knowing what rules they are unwilling to change will help parents be more flexible with other rules to reach a compromise. Parents might ask their children to participate in the process.
While California residents may not have much knowledge about shared parenting, it can have benefits for mothers, fathers and children after a divorce. In about 80 percent of child custody cases, the mother is awarded physical custody. This means that a mother may not be able to go back to work while a father may be disappointed to have limited contact with his children.
California parents who are going through a divorce may be able to settle child custody matters through informal discussions. They may also try to resolve custody matters through alternate resolution methods such as mediation. Of course, the alternative is litigation, but most cases are decided outside of the courtroom.
While decisions around child custody and visitation can be a contentious part of a California divorce, the child custody exchange can be a trigger for conflict as well. These exchanges happens when one parent's period of custody ends and the other begins, and how they will take place is often outlined in the child custody agreement. Exchanges usually occur without incident, but some have sparked violence.
Some California fathers may be among the 48 percent who say they would like to quit their jobs and stay home with their children but cannot because they need the income. Just over half of mothers say the same thing. The number of households in which the father is the breadwinner has dropped significantly since 1970 when almost half of couples were in families with children in which only the father worked outside the home. By 2015, this had dropped to 27 percent.
When families in California are going through difficult circumstances, the role of a sibling can change dramatically. While many divorcing parents handle issues concerning child custody, in different situations, siblings can step in to provide guidance - and legal guardianship - to their younger brothers and sisters.
Shared custody can be an important principle for divorcing parents in California. While mothers are far more likely to receive custody of the children after a divorce, when fathers pursue joint physical custody they are in many cases likely to be successful.
Californians might be interested in a study that shows that the work status of a husband often correlates to their risk of getting divorced. The study was recently published in the "American Sociological Review."
In California, the courts apply a best interest of the child standard when it comes to determining custody. The standard takes a number of distinct factors into account to consider a parent's general fitness. Even in cases where custody has already been decided, the court may alter a custody or visitation arrangement in some circumstances. If one of the parents begins to abuse drugs or alcohol, for example, the court may order changes such as requiring supervision during visitation.
When a California custodial parent is heading to jail, dealing with temporary or permanent child custody changes can be stressful. However, there is a process in place for figuring out where the children will go if the custodial parent can suddenly no longer care for them.