Mediation could provide an effective alternative to a volatile and tense split. Relying on a third party to facilitate productive conversation, you and your spouse might be able to reach an agreement on aspects of your divorce.
Knowing how to maximize this benefit can help you improve its value in your situation.
Understand the role of mediation
Mediation does not mean you will get your way. It also does not provide an immediate solution to all of your marriage problems. It does, however, allow an opportunity for you and your spouse to work through discussions about important aspects of your split. If the conditions are right, CNBC says that mediation can save you quite a bit of money.
Keep a flexible perspective
Prior to meeting for mediation, make a list of your expectations. Think about the non-negotiables you have and whether or not you can modify any of them. Remember that you will need to have some flexibility as mediators will refuse to take sides. Planning to negotiate and showing a willingness to compromise could benefit you in the end.
Prepare for multiple meetings
Mediation will most likely require more than one meeting. Anticipating this can help you keep a realistic perspective of the timeline it will take to resolve everything. The more cooperative both parties are, the faster you might reach a resolution that will benefit everyone.
When you go about it the right way, mediation has the power to change the trajectory of your split. Divorce does not have to be the reason you lose control of your life.