Little Known Strategies and Tactics that Can Help Fathers Win Custody

by | Apr 15, 2013 | Firm News |

A common belief among parents, particularly fathers, is that the Sacramento child custody courts are skeptical of fathers and favorable towards mothers.  This is largely false, but it does not change the fact that many fathers distrust the Sacramento child custody courts.  A logical question arises: Are there any strategies and tactics that can help fathers win custody time with their child?  The answer is, absolutely yes!

First, it is important for all parents, mothers and fathers, to realize that the Sacramento County court and Sacramento County mediators are supposed to avoid discriminating against a parent on the basis of their gender.  Each parent, regardless of gender, is to be given a fair chance to have parenting time with their child.  The Sacramento County mediators and judges typically favor eventually reaching 50-50 agreements because the child needs both of their parents.

For fathers it is very important to try to exercise as much time as possible with your child before any custody motion is filed.  The custody mediator places a lot of emphasis on the very recent parenting timeshare.  Once the child custody and visitation motion has been filed in court, it is important for the father to prepare heavily for their Sacramento custody mediation session and court hearing.  The mother often tries to assert their superiority and to undercut the father’s history of involvement and his awareness of the child’s needs.  The father needs to come prepared to demonstrate his past involvement in the children’s lives.  It is also important that the father demonstrate strong awareness of the child’s needs and stage of development.

The Sacramento County custody mediator will not be impressed by fathers who spend the mediation session complaining about the mother’s actions instead of discussing what is in the child’s best interest.  The mediator does not want to spend a significant amount of time on assignment of blame.  The mediator should be made aware of any of mother’s uncooperative conduct, but fathers should have a series of custody and visitation proposals to demonstrate thoroughness and preparation.  The mediator is more likely to be impressed if the father demonstrates he is involved, caring, and has thought through which custody and visitation plan will be in the child’s best interest.

If you are a father involved in a Sacramento child custody case, please give us a call.  We can help you understand the Sacramento County mediation process and prepare to meet your assigned mediator.  If you have not started the court process, we can help you prepare for eventual custody mediation.  We offer free half-hour attorney consultations with experienced child custody and visitation attorneys.